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Daily Reminders, Inspiration

Daily Reminders to Myself

We lose touch so easily.  There’s always so much going on.  That one conversation, text, email, intent to hang out…gets pushed further and further back.  Priorities get shifted and the span between you and your friend, has now become quite a distance.  Maintaining our relationships takes a lot of effort but it’s worthwhile.  Don’t let your relationships fade.  That bond is hard to get back.

We lose track of time so easily.  One day turns into weeks that turns into a couple of months and suddenly…a year has gone by.  Time flies!  We all know that.  Our time is extremely valuable.  So we must make the most of it.  Carpe Diem right?  Don’t let the lack of time be your excuse.  Make the time!

We lose opportunities so easily.  There are open doors all around us.  Everywhere.  It’s not just when one door closes, another door opens.  Our short-sightedness doesn’t allow us to see all the open doors and golden opportunities.  So take a look around.  Push a little harder on that door…maybe it’s ajar…it could just be a stubborn door.  Don’t lose sight of the present.  That life-changing opportunity might be right in front of you.

We lose too much too easily.  On a day to day basis.  And we lose a part of ourselves during the process.  Not everyday is a good day but as long as you’re having more good days than bad, you are doing okay.  If you aren’t there yet, no worries…you will get there when the time is right.  Don’t let your current circumstance define what your future holds.  It’s just a phase.  Hold on and be strong.  It can last a long time but it’s something that, once you rise above it, will fuel you for the rest of your life.

These are words I always have to remind myself of.  Daily.  I need to make the effort to nurture my relationships.  I need to make the time.  I need to stay in the present moment.  I remind myself that circumstances do change.  If I didn’t go through my own rough period, my life would not be the same.  That empowerment came from rising from my struggles.  I am grateful for this life.  Everyday.

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This post is dedicated to my old friend Chris.  He had a contagious smile and a good heart.  His authenticity will forever stay in my heart.  You will be missed and never forgotten.  R.I.P Chris

I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.”  -Maya Angelou

R.I.P Maya Angelou

 

photo credit: By Dustin Scarpitti

empowerment, Inspiration

My Journey Continues…

It’s been such a long time since I’ve written.  But that doesn’t mean I haven’t been thinking about ways of using my blog to help others.  The last couple of months of my pregnancy had made it difficult for me to find time to sit down and write…or do much of anything to be quite honest.  (Just as the first trimester did, the third trimester wiped me out!)  Then I had my beautiful baby boy…so there was absolutely no free time, as I wanted to bond with this amazing bundle of joy.

Now that I am back to work and getting into more of a normal routine, I want to put pen to paper and continue what I set out to do.  In fact, I had what was undoubtedly a big sign, that my journey of helping others was not yet over.

I had taken 3 months of maternity leave upon having Baby Brandon.  Since I was returning to work the following week, my husband and I wanted to go out to lunch with our son for a “last horrah” before I had to be away from Brandon for most of the day.  If you’re a parent or a pet owner, you know how difficult it is to be away from your loved one for so long.  I commute to work between 3-4 hours a day roundtrip (due to LA traffic) so I would be gone from 7am to 7:30pm.  🙁

While I was waiting inside the restaurant to be seated, I noticed a young lady who walked in to give her name to the hostess. There was nothing about her that set her apart from the others in the crowd, but I could read it in her face.  There was some sort of aura that connected with me and seemed familiar.  But she didn’t look familiar so I dismissed it because I thought maybe I was crazy with all these pregnancy-related emotions.

Well the wait at this restaurant was too long so we decided to try a different place.  My husband went to the car to get the stroller and I waited outside briefly.

You know when you’re in a public place and you’re so close to the person next to you that you can’t avoid overhearing what they are talking about?  I was trying not to eavesdrop in on the conversation going on next to me but I could hear everything whether I wanted to or not.

Two female voices were speaking and one of the girls was telling the other about how difficult it was to wake up every morning…to want to do anything…how hard it was to even roll out of bed and be there, at a restaurant that day…that she was still depressed and not ok.  She was stuck feeling this lethargic feeling and she couldn’t pull herself out of it…that nothing anyone did could help her…

As my husband brought the stroller and we loaded up Brandon, I looked up at the girls and realized that it was the familiarly unfamiliar young lady who was having this conversation.  I had chills…it was a sign…definitely not coincidence.  I was meant to hear that conversation.

I wanted to talk to her and tell her I knew her pain and I had been there…I wanted to hear her story and see if there was something she wanted to ask to someone who had been through some “wreckage” and now led a complete 180 lifestyle…a life in which happily ever after did exist.  I wanted to tell her it would be ok, that it was temporary and that she was stronger than she thought…that her journey had just begun.  But I didn’t want to be that creepy person.  It was not my place to chime in.

And so my journey continues…I have a lot going on in my life.  But so do millions of others.  That incident was a moment of clarity for me.  It revitalized my drive to continue my blog in pursuit of helping others find their happily ever after.  It’s not enough for me to be happy.  I want this for everyone because if they felt as empowered, whole, and truly happy as I do, I believe the world would be a better place.  My mission has a purpose and  if sharing my experiences and thoughts might help at least one individual who has lost their way, then I know I have put my best out there.

I want to be able to answer any questions or give insight to those who truly are struggling.  So tell me…what’s on your mind?  How can I help YOU?  Questions?  Concerns?   Please comment here or email me directly at nvokechangenow (at) gmail (dot) com.